Last night, I had my first full-blown argument with my mother-in-law. A misunderstanding on a trivial household issue caused us both a lot of pain. Of course, I felt she was wrong and she the other way. In a battle of two gargantuan egos, how does one find resolution? We kept arguing . As I tried reiterating my point of view, she closed her ears and shut me out, driving me up the wall in fury. What could I do but leave the room in sheer frustration.
I couldn’t sleep a wink all night. How could she refuse to even listen to my reasoning? What had I done that was so wrong?
Mothers in Law! DOWN DOWN, I kept chanting.
That didn’t do me any good. What do I do? Should I call up my mother and ask her for help ? Bad Idea. As I would probably get a lecture and feel even worse. I had to solve this myself.
I did not want a petty issue to cause a big rift between us.
Morning came and I left home early (while MIL was still asleep) to drop my daughter off at school. On returning I couldn’t bring myself to take the stairs to my home as I still hadn’t found a solution to last night’s issue. My ego instructed me to ignore her completely and get back at her for shutting me out. But my mom and grandmom’s sternest lecture face kept popping up to warn me it wasn’t the right approach.
Undaunted I reached my home and opened the door to find her sitting right in front of me in the living room.
The picture of this lonely old lady sitting by herself and waiting to be loved shook me back to my senses. I was ashamed of myself.How terrible of me to have wanted to get back at her.
I quietly walked up, put my arms around her and hugged her tight. Amidst buckets of tears we both apologized and made up.
And all it took was a little love and a Jaadu Ki Jhapi!
1 comment:
I was told this by someone. It was his advice to me when we discussed about fights between spouses. He said, try holding hands and fight.:))
No better proof for Jaadu ki Jhapi
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